I am now on multi-user.target, logged in via ssh and running memtester again with 850mb this time. Launching le there does not make much of a difference memory wise, because it now idles at 60-65mb.
Leaving that aside, I am now very upset at the rpi. Last time, I had it right next to me, so that it has proper wifi signal and get my job done faster. When I was done, I shut it down and I unplugged it from the power socket.
I reconnected it now, waited for it to boot without for like 5 minutes, but it did not connect to the wireless network or at least it did not any ip from the router which is like 1m away! I repeated the procedure 3 times with no luck, then I got mad and got it back to the tv where I had to reenter the wifi key once more to make it connect.
What is worse is that every time I put it on the tv, I move the antenna cable so slightly and some air-transmitted channels get artifacts. Now I am at the point that the ones that had low signal quality now are no longer available
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The poor wifi signal made the ssh connection drop, so I had no way to stop memtester, so I simply unplugged the rpi from the wall.
I got it back on my desk, it connected on first try and I am now retrying...