systemctl stop kodi
systemctl stop eventlircd
ir-keytable -p nec -t
^ run the above commands over SSH to put the IR receiver in raw/test mode, then press remote keys one at a time starting top-left and going across then top-down on the factory remote until you have all keys recorded. It would be super helpful if you copy/pasted the keys into a text file and appended notes on what the keys look like; most are obvious, some might need a description. From this I can create a keymap that should get the remote working out of box. NB: I can see the older amremote keyfile in some remote keymap repos, but this document codes for more keys than the remotes I see in vendor pics have, and the codes generated by the upstream kernel are likely different, so best to get them fresh in the right format.
I'll make a guess at the LED setting. I suspect it's orange-red in off/standby and blue when on?
The dts is still inheriting something to do with Broadcom SDIO chips from somewhere, hence it's not probing for the Realtek WiFi chip. I will have a look and see what I can find.
NB: I don't see any mention of BT on the vendor specs, so is this a USB device that you added?